Grief Is Just Love,
With Nowhere To Go.
Loss isn't something to "get over." It's something to carry — differently, gently, eventually with more light than weight. Grief therapy at Christie Heart gives you a safe, patient, unrushed space to honor the person, the relationship, the version of life you lost, and find your way back to meaning.
Grief Therapy Doesn't Take Away The Pain. It Teaches You To Carry It.
There is no "right" way to grieve. There is only your way — and you don't have to do it alone. Grief & Loss Work at Christie Heart combines the Stroebe & Schut Dual Process Model, Worden's Four Tasks of Mourning, and gentle attachment-informed practices to help you process what happened without losing the love you carry for what's gone.
This work honors every kind of loss — not just death. Breakups, infertility, lost dreams, pet loss, estranged relationships, career endings, living loss of someone who is still here but changed. If it hurt to lose, it deserves to be mourned.
“Grief is the price you pay for love and what a beautiful thing my grief is.”
— Nigel Edokpolo
Every Loss Has A Different Shape. Every Grief Deserves To Be Seen.
You don't need a death certificate or a dramatic ending for your loss to be "real." If it changed your world, it belongs here.
Death Of A Loved One
The loss that breaks the world. Parent, partner, child, sibling, friend — any death that rearranged the furniture of your life.
Relationship Loss & Divorce
The death of a future you planned with someone. Divorce, breakup, estrangement — even when you chose it, it still hurts.
Loss Of Dreams & Identity
The version of your life that won't happen. Infertility, empty nest, career end, disability diagnosis, migration grief.
Ambiguous & Living Losses
Someone is still here — but not the someone you knew. Dementia, addiction, TBI, emotional cutoff, parental alienation.
Wherever You Are In Grief — That's Exactly Where We'll Start.
Early Days (0-6 Months)
Fresh, raw, unrecognizable. You might not even remember eating yesterday.
Mid Grief (6 Months - 2 Years)
The world is starting to move forward, and you're not sure you want to.
Integrated Grief (2+ Years)
You have "good days" now — and that itself can feel like betrayal.
4 Things Grief Work Actually Does — Nothing To "Fix," Everything To Hold.
Permission To Feel
No "stay strong" here. Every tear, every anger burst, every quiet longing — it all belongs.
Your New Normal
Learn to live in the world after loss — not "get back to normal," because normal is gone forever.
Continuing Bond
Maintain a loving, living connection to what you lost — not stuck in the past, but carried forward beautifully.
Meaning Reconstruction
Ask and gently answer: "What does this loss mean for the rest of my life, and how do I live it well?"
A Grief Session Is Not A Plan. It's A Container.
Safety & Grounding
We meet wherever you are today. If you need 15 minutes just to breathe, we breathe.
Invite What's Here
What are you carrying today? A memory? A regret? A gratitude? A "what if"?
Hold It Together
Nigel doesn't "guide" grief. He witnesses it, holds it with you, and never rushes.
One Small Practice
A tiny, gentle thing — not homework — to hold the feeling between sessions.
Grief FAQ
Is there a "right" amount of time to grieve?
+Absolutely not. Anyone who tells you "you should be over it by now" doesn't understand grief. Two weeks or two decades — your grief belongs to you, and it lasts as long as your love lasts. Our job is to help you integrate it so it stops drowning you, not to make it "go away."
Is my loss "big enough" for therapy?
+Yes. Full stop. If it changed your life, it is big enough for therapy. A beloved pet, a job of 20 years, a friend who ghosted, a dream that shattered — grief doesn't measure loss on a scale. It only knows: something that mattered is gone.
What if I come in and can't stop crying the whole time?
+That's perfect. That's exactly what the space is for. Nigel has tissues, water, weighted blankets, grounding techniques for when it gets too big — and zero judgment. You can cry for the full 50 minutes and not say a single word, and it will still be a good, healing session.
You Don't Have To Carry This Alone. Not Even For One More Day.
Book a free 20-minute grief consultation. No pressure, no agenda — just Nigel listening to where you are, and letting you know exactly what walking through grief together would look like.